Boundaries

Boundaries don’t have to be aggressive! Read that again.

I am often asked to work with people who let their horses push and drag them all over, both on the ground and under saddle. When I ask them why this is happening, the usual answer is that they don’t want the horse to be mad or upset with them. Or I see people who were told to use harsh training methods to get their horse to be obedient but now the horse is worse or showing dengerous behaviors. It is a relationship that has become fear based.

Your horse just wants to know the boundaries. You don’t have to set boundaries in a rough or aggressive way. You just need to be clear and consistent. If your horse seems upset or worried by this, they do not understand you. You need to break down the steps, be clear in your mind about what you are saying, take more time, make sure they are healthy and sound enough to listen, and have patience.

Training your horse isn’t about obedience or punishment. It is about learning, communicating and understanding between two species and it’s one of the best feelings on earth when you and your horse have that connection. I would love to help you and your horse find a relationship based on mutual respect and understanding. If this is something you would like help with, please contact me at 215-820-8804 to set up an evaluation or lesson.